A lock is certainly an outward symbol of security.
I’m completely taking the easy way out this week and reposting. Jim’s been my partner in marriage for a very long time (39 years on October 1st) and although our day-to-day life has changed drastically since this was written in 2014, the good news is that it just keeps getting better.
What can I say? The man I married when I was a mere 18 years old and really had no clue as what a marriage entailed, has proven to be a man beyond measure and the perfect partner for me in this thing called life.
And….we’ve had great examples from day one, as they stood next to us and celebrated our marriage. My parents, Jim and Ginnie Crosby, were married 65 years when Mom died in 2006 and my in-laws, Jim and Janis Kowalski, will be celebrating their 60th anniversary this coming September 1st.
You might say longevity in a marriage runs in this family.
Either that, or we’re all just very, very stubborn.
We met in high school and married at the ripe old age of 18 and 19. I’m pretty sure more than half the people at St. John the Evangelist Church in Deer Park, Ohio on that first day of October in 1977 didn’t think the marriage would last. Our ages were definitely against us.
But last we have. We said those vows 37 years ago and today I’m thankful we continue to celebrate anniversaries together.
Ours is a shared history…..moving far away from our families and hometown to embark on our Air Force adventure, learning how to communicate through years of alert tours, TDY’s, command tours and separations….three pregnancies and deliveries and three little rough and tumble boys who stole our hearts and perhaps a few years….twenty-four moves….countless amazing friends from all over the world….year upon year of change, love, laughter and memories.
On the other side we also had to grow up within our marriage and we didn’t always grow in the same direction. There were times when one or the other of us disconnected. Times when we’d look at each other and think “I’ll always love you but I’m not sure I like you very much right now.” Times when we had to fight, not just with each other, but fight for the sacrament of the marriage we had entered when we were so very young and full of romantic dreams.
Over the years we’ve learned to laugh through the tears, love through the discontent, hug despite the cold of feeling distant (or perhaps because of it), and remain friends who love each other deeply.
Happy Anniversary to my husband. I’m so very thankful you’ve kept me around and continue to renew my contract. There isn’t anyone else I’d rather be grand-parenting with and growing old next to. As I write this I’m completely amazed that 37 years have passed in such a blur. It’s a good thing we have those 59 photo albums to refer to when I want to remember the individual days! Please know how much you’re loved. I know I don’t say it enough.
I’m glad we’ve beaten the odds. I love you more than all the stars and to the moon and back!
Click here to watch the anniversary video I made two years ago.